Versus another situation where I had where I was with my now wife, then girlfriend Eve at House of Blues Anaheim. Watching our good friends Ozomatli perform, and there was a guy who was next to us in the crowd, great dancing, music, very fun, Latin alternative band. And and this guy is dancing, but it wasn't even like a punk rock engagement, but this guy is in his own mind, his own moshpit dancing, Loosely arm swinging just bouncing around in the crowd where everyone else was kind of keeping to themselves and I happen to To be next to him. So we're when he was dancing around crazy. He would occasionally bump into myself, and obviously, I put myself towards his side, so that Eve was on my left and he was on my right so he wouldn't be touching her. But he would just shoulder bump, shoulder bump grunting shoulder bump shoulder bump. And it just got to the point, bro, where it was affecting my enjoyment of the night. So, like I said, I suspect I could have just moved out of the way, right? And walked somewhere else, but I knew that what he was doing was unpleasant not just for me, but for everyone around him because Was just not following the vibe of the room. So instead what I did was I took my right hand and I grabbed him behind his neck with my right hand just like like, you know, like sometimes you put your hand around your friend and you like, put your hand over his shoulder like a bra, like a little half, bro, hug over the shoulder. But instead of over-the-shoulder. I actually grabbed with my thumb and my forefinger, 's. Like, I grab the back of his neck with a little bit of pressure. And I stopped him right where he was standing. And I stood behind him at a kind of a 45 degree angle so that he wouldn't have. Have a punching angle on me and literally imagine someone standing behind you, and to your left with her hand, your neck. And I whispered to him. I said, hey my friend, I
can see you having a really good time, but you're bumping into us. So
do me a favor. Calm it down, just
a little bit and we should be good
to go. Just write to his ear, no one else, even heard, and it was very objective. It was very clear. It was not raising my voice. And with the clarity of the message. He looked, he peeked over his left shoulder and looked at me and I was a little bit taller than him. He looked at me and he just kind of moved to the right and that was the end of the mosh pit. It was done. You see? So I don't know what would happen. If someone else, you know, overreacted and a situation where the guy have fought or not. I don't even know. But what I do know is that guy felt that guy felt based on my C clamp on his neck and the calmness of my voice that I was ready to engage if I had to and my willingness to engage and my calmness. I meant that I didn't have to. But before I grabbed his neck, do you think I contemplated the possibility of having to fight this guy? Yes, I contemplated it. And I said, okay, I don't think it's gonna happen. But if it does, hey, it's I can handle it. So, because I have the ability and the willingness, not the eagerness to engage. That's a big difference, but the preparedness to engage safely. I didn't have to. Now, I wouldn't recommend the same strategy for everyone obviously, but what I will say is that a calm, clear demeanor, right? Calm. Assertive confident demeanor goes a long way, but the problem is a lot of the listeners are listening right now saying, wow, that sounds great. And I'd love to be able to have that. You can't have that without the internal technique. That's the challenge.
Rener Gracie Used a C-Clamp to Calm a Wild Crowd Member at an Ozomatli Concert
#446: How Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu Will Make You a Better Man - Rener Gracie