#722 - 15 Lessons From 2023 - Jordan Peterson, Alex Hormozi & Elon Musk

We're not afraid of failing; we're afraid of what other people will say about us if we fail.

Toxic compassion is the prioritization of short-term emotional comfort over everything else—over truth, reality, actual long-term outcomes, flourishing, everything. It optimizes for looking good rather than doing good.

Imagine how good you'd be at something you loved if you're winning at something that you hate.

Naval Ravikant says no one can beat you at being you. The absolute best that you can hope for if you're playing a role is to be the second best in the world at being someone else.

It's one thing to get what you want, but it's another thing to want what's worth getting. That's from Shane Parish.

The danger of not spending time working out what you want to want can cause you, no matter how hard you work, to move in the wrong direction.

If we don't cut to the core and program are wants, then our best-case scenario is to be a rich, famous, or successful slave.

In short, your default factory settings are shit. Don't follow them.

There's an old saying that there's three types of people on a ladder: one at the bottom, one at the middle, and one at the top. Which one is the best to be? The one that's still climbing.

What determines neediness, and therefore attractiveness, is the why behind your behavior. You can say the coolest thing or do what everyone else does, but if you do it for the wrong reason, it will come off as needy and desperate and turn people off.

A life should be lived by design, not default. It's one thing to get what you want, but it's another thing to want what's worth getting.

Beware the people who prioritize saying good things because they might not actually be doing good things.

Strangling your passions in exchange for an elite life is like being on the Titanic after the iceberg, water up to your chin, with a everybody telling you that you're so lucky to be on the greatest steamship of all time.