There's some sort of bizarre magic that happens when we put down what Rumi, the great Sufi poet, calls the 'open secret' — this secret that we're all carrying around that we don't live up to who other people are, that we're somehow flawed. All kinds of weird coping mechanisms come from that. When we put that down, when we just show up with the other person... 'Am I enough?' Oh yeah, you're enough. Stop trying to be something else. You're okay. [When] you find that enoughness in each other, it's like a freaking miracle.