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Lori Gottlieb: Understanding pain, therapeutic breakthroughs, and keys to enduring emotional health
The Peter Attia Drive
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Lori Gottlieb: Understanding pain, therapeutic breakthroughs, and keys to enduring emotional health
The Peter Attia Drive
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Peter Attia, Lori Gottlieb
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Aug 3, 2020
Lori Gottlieb: Understanding pain, therapeutic breakthroughs, and keys to enduring emotional health
The Peter Attia Drive
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Aug 3, 2020
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We like to say that insight is the booby prize of therapy, meaning you can have all the insight in the world, but if you don't make changes out in the world, the insight is
useless.
Insight Is the Booby Prize of Therapy
Therapy is like getting a really good second opinion on your life from somebody who is not in your life ... The people in your life—they're too close to the situation, so if you really want a good second opinion on your life, go to a therapist who can look at you from the perspective of not having all that other
information.
Therapists Are Unbiased Observers Who Provide a Second Opinion on Your Life
Why do people need a terminal diagnosis to really pay attention to what they want to do in their lives? We shouldn't need that ... We all have a terminal diagnosis—life has a 100% mortality
rate.
How Did Lori Gottlieb Muster the Courage to Leave Medical School & Become a Journalist?
Be aware. Be aware of the gift of your life today when you wake up be intentional about how you want to live your life. What are your priorities? Are you living
those?
Meet Julie: A Terminal Cancer Patient Who Spent Her Final Days Working at Trader Joe's
All these studies will tell you if you look them up that the most important factor in the success of someone's therapy is the relationship that you have with your therapist. It matters more than the training the therapist has, than the modality that they're using, than the number of years of experience. Not that those things don't matter—they absolutely do, but the thing that matters the most is that
relationship.
The Relationship Between Therapist & Patient Influences Therapy Success Most
I don't think there is a greater ROI that a person can make than investing in their emotional health because without it, all of the other things don't
matter.
Without Emotional Health, Nothing Else Really Matters
Humans are ridiculous. And I mean that in the most compassionate way that I think that we as humans we say one thing and we do another all the time. And I think that's funny the ways that we act the ways that we try to protect ourselves, which actually don't protect
us.
Humans Constantly Say One Thing & Do Another
When the story of my life is gonna be told, the people who are going to have literally saved my life are going to be the people who helped me with my mental health, and I don't think that can be
overstated.
Don't Ignore Emotional Health; If Something's Wrong, See a Therapist
Most big transformations come about from the dozens or even hundreds of tiny, almost imperceptible steps that we take along the
way.
Therapy Breakthroughs Happen After Hundreds of Imperceptible Steps
So many times people come to therapy and say, 'Tell me what to do,' and what I want to help them do is find the answer inside because it's there—they just can't hear it
yet.
How Did Lori Gottlieb Muster the Courage to Leave Medical School & Become a Journalist?
Before diagnosing someone with depression, make sure they aren't surrounded by
assholes.
Many People Attend Therapy Because of Relationship Struggles
I think those moments in life when you feel like you really didn't want something to happen are often the moments when something really transformative is about to
happen.
Because Humans Hate Uncertainty, We Cling to the Familiar
That's why... change is so hard—because we cling to the familiar. We cling to what we know. So, even if you're making a really positive change, sometimes we fight that because we don't like
uncertainty.
Because Humans Hate Uncertainty, We Cling to the Familiar
I feel like I went from telling people stories as a journalist to helping people change their stories as a
therapist.
Before Becoming a Therapist, Lori Gottlieb Was a Journalist
A lot of us would rather blame other people or other circumstances for why we can't have happiness or joy or meaning or whatever it is in our lives than to say, 'Oh, now I'm responsible for that, and if it doesn't work out, that's on
me.'
Lori Gottlieb's Therapist Taught Her a Valuable Lesson About Responsibility
Intros & Ads
Peter Attia Intro
Peter Introduces Lori Gottlieb
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Lori Gottlieb's Book, 'Maybe You Should Talk to Someone,' Had a Huge Impact on Peter
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Psychotherapist Lori Gottlieb Hosts the 'Dear Therapists' Podcast
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Spending Time in the ER for a TV Show Made Lori Want to Attend Medical School
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Before Becoming a Therapist, Lori Gottlieb Was a Journalist
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As Medical School Students, Peter Attia & Lori Gotlieb Dissected Cadavers
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How Did Lori Gottlieb Muster the Courage to Leave Medical School & Become a Journalist?
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In 2006, Peter Attia Made a Tough Decision & Left the Medical Field
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In Her Late 30s, Lori Gottlieb Went Back to School to Become a Therapist
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Meet Julie: A Terminal Cancer Patient Who Spent Her Final Days Working at Trader Joe's
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Lori Talks About The Energy And Vulnerability in Julie's Sessions
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Lori Gottlieb Helped Transform a Narcissist Into a Loveable Person
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Therapists Don't Provide Immediate Answers; They Guide Patients Toward Clarity
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The Relationship Between Therapist & Patient Influences Therapy Success Most
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Deciding to See a Therapist Takes Tremendous Strength
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Many People Attend Therapy Because of Relationship Struggles
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Many Men Express Vulnerability for the First Time in Therapy
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Lori Gottlieb Cried After Her Patient's Psychological Armor Was Finally Destroyed
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It's Never Too Late to Change Your Story
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Change Happens Gradually Then Suddenly
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The Most Important Part of Change: Maintaining It
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Therapy Breakthroughs Happen After Hundreds of Imperceptible Steps
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Lori Gottlieb's Therapist Taught Her a Valuable Lesson About Responsibility
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As a Therapist, How Often Does Lori See Patients Who've Contemplated Suicide?
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Therapists Are Unbiased Observers Who Provide a Second Opinion on Your Life
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Humans Constantly Say One Thing & Do Another
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Because Humans Hate Uncertainty, We Cling to the Familiar
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Lori Gottlieb's Patient Vowed to Kill Herself If Things Didn't Improve By Her 70th Birthday
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How Many Patients from Her Book 'Maybe You Should Talk to Someone' Is Lori Still in Contact With?
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Don't Ignore Emotional Health; If Something's Wrong, See a Therapist
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It's a Common Misconception That Therapy Focuses on Mostly Your Childhood
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Insight Is the Booby Prize of Therapy
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Without Emotional Health, Nothing Else Really Matters
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Peter & Lori Outro
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AD: Peter's Podcast Membership Program
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Connect With Peter Online
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Clips
Peter Attia Intro
Peter Introduces Lori Gottlieb
Lori Gottlieb's Book, 'Maybe You Should Talk to Someone,' Had a Huge Impact on Peter
Psychotherapist Lori Gottlieb Hosts the 'Dear Therapists' Podcast
Spending Time in the ER for a TV Show Made Lori Want to Attend Medical School
Before Becoming a Therapist, Lori Gottlieb Was a Journalist
As Medical School Students, Peter Attia & Lori Gotlieb Dissected Cadavers
How Did Lori Gottlieb Muster the Courage to Leave Medical School & Become a Journalist?
In 2006, Peter Attia Made a Tough Decision & Left the Medical Field
In Her Late 30s, Lori Gottlieb Went Back to School to Become a Therapist
Meet Julie: A Terminal Cancer Patient Who Spent Her Final Days Working at Trader Joe's
Lori Talks About The Energy And Vulnerability in Julie's Sessions
Lori Gottlieb Helped Transform a Narcissist Into a Loveable Person
Therapists Don't Provide Immediate Answers; They Guide Patients Toward Clarity
The Relationship Between Therapist & Patient Influences Therapy Success Most
Deciding to See a Therapist Takes Tremendous Strength
Many People Attend Therapy Because of Relationship Struggles
Many Men Express Vulnerability for the First Time in Therapy
Lori Gottlieb Cried After Her Patient's Psychological Armor Was Finally Destroyed
It's Never Too Late to Change Your Story
Change Happens Gradually Then Suddenly
The Most Important Part of Change: Maintaining It
Therapy Breakthroughs Happen After Hundreds of Imperceptible Steps
Lori Gottlieb's Therapist Taught Her a Valuable Lesson About Responsibility
As a Therapist, How Often Does Lori See Patients Who've Contemplated Suicide?
Therapists Are Unbiased Observers Who Provide a Second Opinion on Your Life
Humans Constantly Say One Thing & Do Another
Because Humans Hate Uncertainty, We Cling to the Familiar
Lori Gottlieb's Patient Vowed to Kill Herself If Things Didn't Improve By Her 70th Birthday
How Many Patients from Her Book 'Maybe You Should Talk to Someone' Is Lori Still in Contact With?
Don't Ignore Emotional Health; If Something's Wrong, See a Therapist
It's a Common Misconception That Therapy Focuses on Mostly Your Childhood
Insight Is the Booby Prize of Therapy
Without Emotional Health, Nothing Else Really Matters
Peter & Lori Outro
AD: Peter's Podcast Membership Program
Connect With Peter Online
Disclaimer
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