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#618: Finding Connection in a Lonely World
The Art of Manliness
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#618: Finding Connection in a Lonely World
The Art of Manliness
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Vivek Murthy, Brett McKay
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Jun 10, 2020
#618: Finding Connection in a Lonely World
The Art of Manliness
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Loneliness is associated with not only an increased risk of heart disease but also an increased risk of dementia, depression, anxiety, premature death, and sleep
disturbances.
Loneliness Increases Risk of Heart Disease, Anxiety, Depression, and Chronic Illness
If you look at the mortality impact of loneliness—the amount by which our life is shortened when we're lonely, it seems to be similar to the mortality impact associated with smoking 15 cigarettes a day and even greater than the mortality impact we see with obesity and sedentary
living.
The Mortality Impact of Loneliness Is Similar to Smoking 15 Cigarettes a Day
If you're lonely, you're not alone. All of us experience loneliness at some point in our lives. We don't talk about it because we're often ashamed. We've come to believe that if we're lonely, we're not likeable, or we're broken in some way. The truth is that all of us experience
loneliness.
If You're Lonely, You're Not Alone; Don't Be Ashamed
As human beings, across cultures, we all have a few core needs: We all want to be seen for who we are, we all want to know that we matter, and we all want to be
loved.
Everyone Wants Three Things: To Be Seen, Know They Matter, & Be Loved
On a biological level, loneliness puts us in a stress state, and in the short-term, that stress can be good. It can motivate us to go and seek out other friends and family members and to hopefully feel more connected. But we run into problems when that loneliness is prolonged and when the stress state that it causes is prolonged as well. We know that chronic stress is associated with higher levels of inflammation in the body, which can lead to an increased incidence of heart disease and other chronic
illnesses.
Loneliness Increases Risk of Heart Disease, Anxiety, Depression, and Chronic Illness
Social media makes it easy to spend a little bit of time with a lot of people. It's easier for me to wish happy birthday to 100 friends on Facebook by typing 'HBD!' on their walls than to actually pick up the phone and have a half-hour in-depth conversation with a friend on his or her birthday. We've lowered the barrier to having shorter and less intimate interactions with people we barely
know.
You Don't Need 20 Friends to Feel Fulfilled; You Only Need 5
There is great power in simply showing up, witnessing, and listening to someone deeply. While it feels passive, when you're listening deeply to someone, you're telling them, 'I see you, you matter, and you are
loved.'
Everyone Wants Three Things: To Be Seen, Know They Matter, & Be Loved
We know that when people pursue wealth, power, and fame, defining their worth by those things, they rarely end up happy. The world is filled with rich, powerful, and famous people who are profoundly
unhappy.
Self-Worth Is Intrinsic; It's Not Defined By Success, Wealth, & Fame
We know that loneliness is exceedingly common ... 22% of adults in America struggle with
loneliness.
Loneliness Is Increasing: 25% of People Are Lonely
The foundation for connecting with other people is our connection with our self, which is marked by how comfortable we feel with who we are, how grounded and centered we feel, and how aware we are of our worth &
value.
Daily Moments of Solitude Help Facilitate Human Connection
The data seems to indicate that men and women have similar rates of loneliness, but it also suggests that men have a harder time admitting
it.
The World's Model of Masculinity Makes Loneliness Challenging for Men
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Brett McKay Intro
Brett Introduces Vivek Murthy, MD (Part I)
Brett Outlines the Upcoming Episode
The Art of Manliness Show Notes
Brett Introduces Vivek Murthy, MD (Part II)
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Growing Up a Shy Kid, Vivek Struggled With Loneliness
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As a Doctor, Many of Vivek's Near-Death Patients Were Lonely
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In America, Loneliness Is More Common Than Diabetes & Smoking
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Loneliness Is the Gap Between the Social Connections You Need & Have
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The Three Types of Loneliness: Intimate, Relational, & Collective
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Neglecting Friendships When You're Married Can Cause Loneliness
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Loneliness Increases Risk of Heart Disease, Anxiety, Depression, and Chronic Illness
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The Mortality Impact of Loneliness Is Similar to Smoking 15 Cigarettes a Day
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Loneliness Induces a Stress State & Erodes Self-Esteem
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Brett McKay Interlude
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Brett McKay Interlude
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Loneliness Is Increasing: 25% of People Are Lonely
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The Two Main Causes of Loneliness: Ease of Mobility & Technology
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Social Media's Comparison Culture Can Decrease Self-Worth & Cause Loneliness
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Self-Worth Is Intrinsic; It's Not Defined By Success, Wealth, & Fame
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Social Media Distorts Your Social Life Expectations & Exacerbates Loneliness
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You Don't Need 20 Friends to Feel Fulfilled; You Only Need 5
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The World's Model of Masculinity Makes Loneliness Challenging for Men
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If You're Lonely, You're Not Alone; Don't Be Ashamed
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To Limit Loneliness, Talk to Family & Friends for 15 Minutes Every Day
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To Improve Conversation Quality, Avoid Multitasking & Be Present
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Service Is the Most Powerful Antidote to Loneliness
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Daily Moments of Solitude Help Facilitate Human Connection
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The Three Relationship Circles: Intimate, Relational, & Community
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Everyone Wants Three Things: To Be Seen, Know They Matter, & Be Loved
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Connect With Vivek Online
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Brett & Vivek Outro
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Brett McKay Outro (Part I)
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The Art of Manliness Website
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Rate & Review "The Art of Manliness" Podcast
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Brett McKay Outro (Part II)
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